Over the last couple of weeks I’ve spent most of my time downsizing many aspects of my life, and changing my unhealthy & unrealistic perspective. I started the summer with visions of productivity, success and accomplishing 10 habits a day with online courses and language learning. It soon became too much for me to handle. So, I stopped and kept my daily life to an absolute minimum.
Doing nothing = unproductivity = failure.
This was the equation that I based my entire 21 years of my life upon, and it had some pretty dire consequences. It rationalised burn out, working myself through mealtimes and evenings and ultimately missed a huge component, self-care.
So I decided to go to therapy.
Now before I get into my story, I did publish many blog posts and dedicated a whole series about my personal experiences with therapy as I was going through the process, but never reflected on it as something that happened in hindsight. And I didn’t just go to therapy for this, I also went in for relationship problems and life issues in general.
In this day and age, therapy is more accepted, it’s widely used by people from all social classes and cultures, and most importantly, there’s less of a stigma around needing or wanting to see a professional for certain issues. But that’s does not speak for everyone or every culture or even every country, there are still negative stereotypes attached to people going. There are still many opinions floating around the internet about mentally distressed people who need someone to guide them to a different mindset or to help with practical issues, both good and bad.
I want to be a part of a change that is understanding and accepting of reaching out, we’re so used to keeping our problems to ourselves, of smiling when we’d rather be crying, and that hurts. Why can’t we reach out? There are so many misconceptions around therapy, about how it’s just not for some people, when in reality the first one you meet may not be the one for you, and that’s still okay.
You don’t have to be going through a major life crisis to see a therapist, it’s not a waste of time just to see someone and talk through problems, no matter how minor. You may be exactly where you want to be in life and still want to see a therapist. You may be getting tons of support from family and friends and still want to go to therapy, and that doesn’t mean that you’re incapable or that your support network is incapable of assisting you, you may just need an extra little push in the right direction.
The bottom line is you shouldn’t be afraid of seeking help when you need it, it does not make you weak or broken. It simply means that you are human.
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