It’s already 14 days, an entire two weeks into the new year, and I’m just now getting to this? You’re probably thinking what’s the point? Every other blogger was prompt to enter the new year with their goals in hand, and now the buzz had officially died down. Despite the fact that this is most likely true, it’s been proven that within the first two weeks, many give up and/or fail at their resolutions. Why? Well, there’s an entire plethora of reasons, that I won’t get in to, but the timing of my post serves as a reminder and as motivation to keep on pursuing your goals.
Goals vs Resolutions
I published a blog post on why I don’t set the traditional new year’s resolutions but instead set goals. The whole idea around resolutions isn’t something that appeals to me, it feels structured and inflexible as if I’m constrained to accomplishing something within 12 months and if I somehow fail, that’s it, time to give up.
Goals, on the other hand, feel much less constrained, though I’m setting them in the new year, they’re feasible and can have any time limit set to them, whether it’s a year or less or more. Something that goes hand in hand with having a set of goals, is having a theme or themes. This acts almost like an umbrella, bringing together common goals whilst serving as a reminder of your values and what’s most important to you.
Why set goals if the value it has does nothing to inspire you?
My Themes for 2019 // The 4 C’s
Consistency – to be consistent in my routines, to be consistent in waking up early, to be consistent in my habits, to be consistent in my goals, to be consistent in my growth, and to ultimately be consistent in who I am as a person. Most of all, in who I am as a person.
Commitment- to commit to myself, in a way that’s caring, loving and kind. To understand that I am who I am, my most fundamental aspects cannot be changed, instead, they can be committed to. To commit to others in a way I
would should myself, to spread love and happiness, hoping, no, ensuring it seeps into their lives.
Connection – to stay grounded to this earth, to know that despite life’s hurdles, I will always come back to the earth. To stay rooted, not to change because of bitterness or hurt, to know life begins again. I will begin again. I will be me.
Confidence – to walk out in public passing strangers or passing friends with my head held high, to speak in conversations of interest and learn something new, to be comfortable in my own skin, to express my ideas, my beliefs, to express and pass onto the world a piece of me.
My 2019 Goals // Health, Personal, Work & Blog
- Be mindful of what I consume – this was my goal last year, a repeat not because I failed but because it made such a difference that I want to continue. Exposing myself to the positive side of life and to social media, if you believe such a thing exists, helped me realise how much the negative aspects affected my mental health
- Meditation – something I started 2018 with, subsequently enjoyed before life got in the way and I fell off the bandwagon, so to speak. Despite the many months of lost practice, I’m hoping to dust myself off and continue where I left off. (I started this yesterday and I already feel a sense of calm and contentment).
- Take one day off a week – this aligns with my goals to practice more self-care, which honestly shouldn’t have a time stamp, we all need self-care for life. On my days off I’m hoping to de-clutter mentally, emotionally and physically. I’ll keep you posted on how successful I am.
- Self-acceptance – how do I even begin to describe that I struggle with this, and always have? In a society that’s always encouraging change, that profits off of our insecurities, flaws and imperfections, it seems impossible to flip this around and instead accept ourselves instead of trying to change what we can’t. I know it’s not going to be easy, neither will my progress be linear or proportional. There will be ups and downs, another part of acceptance.
- Gratitude- I always underestimate the power of being grateful, that warm, fuzzy feeling that fills you with contentment and sends sparks of joy flowing through your insides, I mean, who wouldn’t want to feel like that? It’s all about finding those little pockets of time to immerse yourself in gratitude.
- Be present – this goes hand in hand with being grateful, to acknowledge the present moment, to feel everything within it and just be. Something that’s seemingly so effortless is difficult, we’re running around moving from one step to another, from one success to the next, to the point where we can miss out on life altogether.
- Keep track of assignments – in terms of work, unlike my normal years of studying at university, this year (placement year) I don’t have exams (yay!), meaning I have a bigger workload of assignments to complete. So far, I’ve kept to planning and managing my time well, without the burnout. I’m hoping to keep this going.
- Go with the flow, not against it – for those of you who may not know, my day job is as a clinical psychologist, I work with patients one-to-one delivering therapies, most of my job is spontaneous, and spontaneity is something I struggle with. I want to take each day as it comes, seizing opportunities with both hands rather than shying away just because I’ve never done a certain thing before.
- Post as regularly as I possibly can – my blog has suffered quite a bit in the past year, all due to fear of not getting the stats that I want whenever I click publish. Over the past month, I’ve realised this shouldn’t matter because ultimately I write for myself, these words that flow out of me are mine.
This is a year of change, a year where I’ll be forced out of my comfort zone, to live the life I’ve always dreamed of, to be the person I want to become. And I’m taking you along with me, are you ready?
© Afiyah/WhenLifeAwakens, 2018. Unauthorised use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Afiyah/WhenLifeAwakens with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.