Hi, hello and welcome back to my blog and of course a huge welcome to all my new followers, (I’m so close to hitting 400!!). It’s been nearly a month since I vented my frustrations, let out all the pain I was experiencing on this platform. But, I’m back for good and ready to take on many new challenges, especially since the new year is steadily approaching, it’s going to be a spectacular ride.
In the past month, I realised a lot of things, mainly my opinions on blogging, my opinion on my life and future and most importantly, my attitudes towards self-care. If you’ve read my previous posts you’ll know how much of a huge advocate I am of self-care, how much I preach, but as with many other things in my life, taking my own advice is often the hardest. And even to this day, it remains so. I’ll get there slowly, but surely, I’m starting to unlearn all the toxicity that I became conditioned to in my earlier years.
Reset, reset, then reset some more.
One thing I’ve learnt in my 20 years of life is that I’m constantly changing, constantly evolving to become a better version of myself. Even though I can be stubborn in the face of change, it’s a force that I can’t stop, it’s practically inevitable. This stubbornness has prevented me from growing, I usually end up in a strange place of limbo, stuck in the past and anxious about the future. For me now, resetting is a huge part of moving forward, to shedding all my old layers, preparing for the new, all whilst being aware and conscious of the present moment.
- Vent EVERYTHING – to acknowledge that you need to move from a stagnant period of your life you need to be aware an release everything that’s holding you back. I do this through journaling, I note down everything that’s affecting my life in a negative way, and simply let it go and move on.
- Propose a better future – after dealing with the negative and feeling overwhelmed I begin to note down the ways I want to change so that my present and future moments are ones where I am my most authentic and at my best. These can be habits, positive thoughts, quotes, anything that inspires change.
- Cleanse the mind, body and soul – out of all the steps, this is the hardest yet the most worth it, now that you have a plan, it’s time to take a step back and focus on caring for yourself. Spend time alone, take yourself on little dates to the movies, to the library, to museums. Clear your mind for 5 minutes a day, imagine nothingness, lose all sense of attachment, lose the worries. Get active, walk briskly and often, to school, to work, on your lunch breaks. Don’t worry about where you’re going, just get up.
- Get back into action – this is the step I’m on right now, getting back into being productive, aligning myself to my goals, knowing that taking a break was much needed, despite the effects of being knocked back a little. Taking action can sometimes be overwhelming, know that it’s perfectly fine to go back a step and focus more on yourself. But know that your dreams are out there waiting for you to find them, so get out there and live as the best possible person you can ever be.
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