First of all, I’d like to apologise for the somewhat clickbaity nature of what I’ve named today’s blog post, it may not be entirely be the best way to attract your attention but I promise this post does have some value and informativeness within it.
The reason as to why I’ve just mentioned exactly what it is that I’ve just mentioned is purely because fulfilment in itself, and living what is known as a ‘fulfilled life’ is subjective in nature. What you may perceive as fulfilment on your own terms will most definitely be different to another person’s belief about fulfilment. Yet the commonality that links us all together, despite our perceptions of what this fulfilment may be is that it is all something we would like to have achieved at some point in our lives. Many of us will like to have the opportunity to grow old and to reflect on our lives and pretty much say to ourselves and maybe even others around us that we gained a lot of fulfilment in our lives. Perhaps not surprisingly this is an ideal that many of us want in the future.
I’m not here to tell you how to live your life or introduce a strict set of rules that you must abide, else you’ll never be fulfilled in life, mainly because of the subjective nature of this topic itself. Rather, I’m here to guide you and introduce to you a set of principles I came across recently that not only may bring fulfilment but also gives a guideline on how to achieve the best out of life, and to become the best version of you that you can possibly be. Sounds too good to be true, I understand.
This set of guidelines are known as The Four Agreements, based on ancient Toltec wisdom, and on the book by author Don Miguel Ruiz which tackles the ideas of self-limiting beliefs essentially to help us break out of the box we or others tend to put ourselves in, to reveal our unlimited capabilities as humans and as I mentioned before, to help us live our lives in the best possible way.
- Be impeccable with your word. This basically means to prevent yourself from expressing criticisms about others, to stop judging whatever it is that other people may do, not only does this take into account what we say verbally but the way we think of things in our minds. In terms of change, it’s important to remember it all starts from within.
- Don’t take anything personally. This is one that many people, myself included struggle with from time to time, it’s easy to get caught up in the moment and take whatever happens to us personally, when in reality we need to detach ourselves from others and realise that they may be experiencing problems, and it may have nothing to do with us.
- Don’t make assumptions. There’s an old saying that by making assumptions, you make an ass out of you and me, that by assuming certain things when in reality it may be another can cause all sorts of confusion and mixed signals. It’s better to be sure than to assume.
- Always do your best. This could not sound more cliche, I get that, but in life, it’s necessary to try and do our best, regardless of the circumstances or situations, by trying your best, new paths may open that you may never have dreamed of and even when failure ensues there are no what-ifs. The bottom line is that you tried your best, and that’s all that will ever be asked of you.
One final thing I want to bring your attention to is that nowhere in these Four Agreements does it mention success, and even though for many success may be critical to having living a fulfilled life, it’s not always necessary. We learn as much from our failures than we do as our successes, and life at times will throw curveballs at us.
It’s not about how many accomplishments we’ve gained over our lifetime, but how we deal with the unexpected, how we rise up
from failure that truly determines fulfilment.
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