Nighttime Thoughts #4

After spending a long time thinking about this series that I created at the end of last year, I’ve decided, for now, to revive it. The reason I created it was to write about topics that are more personal to me, and that others can possibly relate to, that decide to haunt our minds when we’re alone with our thoughts.

One thing you should know about me is that I’m a worrier, despite what other people say about me it’s not something I can control, I’ve always struggled with feelings of dread, of worry to the point where I couldn’t physically function. Since I’ve gotten older it’s become much better, mainly because I have certain systems in place and rituals I can practice for whenever the horrible feelings arise.

I was mindlessly browsing through social media one night when I came across a concept that stated, distance sometimes doesn’t make the heart grow fonder, it just creates more distance, and this struck a chord in me. And of course, it made me worry, for days after I couldn’t stop thinking about this idea, it brought back some painful memories and helped me shift my perspective on the issues I had prior.

It made me realise that communication is one of the most important things that a relationship can have, whether it’s romantic or platonic. By always speaking different aspects of your life, they are a multitude of ways two people can connect, ways that one can help the other, ways that the common aspects can be found.

However, this is always much easier said than done, it’s difficult opening up to a new person because in some cases that person will leave and all communication will be cut off, whether this is for better or for worse, only time can tell.

The point where distance just creates more distance is when neither party is willing to close the gap that’s going to grow wider and wider. Sometimes there’s a subconscious feeling that’s experienced that simply tells us the gap is fine or tells us that we don’t want to connect or even try to, ever again.

If the distance doesn’t get resolved and if life continues to go on despite the lack of communication, perhaps it’s for the best? This was one of the hardest things I ever had to learn, when to stop, when to let go of a potentially toxic person. I always thought things could work out and that by continuing to appear and disappear in another person’s life was the best option. But honestly, it never was, and never will be. Either you’re with them or you’re not.

-Whenlifeawakens 🙂

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2 thoughts on “Nighttime Thoughts #4”

  1. A lot of this rings true with me. I too worry against my will and the easiest thing for someone to say is don’t worry. But like I always tell them theory is easier most of the times. I’m a big advocate of communication in any form of relationship. I don’t like being misunderstood and I like to know I fully understand people.

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  2. Ohhhh those toxic people we hold onto! “Continuing to disappear and reappear in one another person’s life was the best option” <—-Wow, I get this completely. I would convince myself there was symbolism to it all.

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