“I’ve been making a list of things they don’t teach you at school. They don’t teach you how to love somebody. They don’t teach you how to be famous. They don’t teach you how to be rich or how to be poor. They don’t teach you how to walk away from someone you don’t love any longer. They don’t teach you how to know what’s going on in someone else’s mind. They don’t teach you what to say to someone who’s dying. They don’t teach you anything worth knowing.” – Neil Gaiman
Teach me something that’s actually worth knowing.
Self love is worth knowing. We live in a rigid and tidy minded society which only accepts conformity. We live in a society that showcases the most unachievable versions, both physically and mentally of males and females. Versions that are constantly shoved down our throats and drowning in our eyes, it’s inescapable. Despite how harmful this is to our self-confidence, self-esteem and overall mentality, changes are few and far between. Not enough is being done to the outside world to change society’s perceptions, why showcase ‘perfection’ when perfection itself is non-existent?
However, changing the perceptions of the outside world is not enough and perhaps not possible if changes don’t first occur within ourselves. But how do you love yourself if the world tries to turn yourself against you? You stop listening. You stop tuning into negativity, into hatred, into pain and you look towards the positive. This isn’t always the easiest thing to do, but even if you’re buried in the deepest grey cloud, there is always something, however small, there is always something positive.
The smallest step in the right direction can spark the biggest changes, it can lead to a positive mentality, a better self perception. Accepting yourself for who and what you are, despite it being the one of the hardest things to do, means no one, no matter how hard they may try, will never put you down. Including yourself.
My belief is that self-love is something that is truly worth knowing, something that has the capacity to change who you are and how you see the world, completely.