Hello everyone and welcome back to a new post, this letter will be about my experiences with different types of friendships…
Friendships are a beautiful thing. But they can be as tragic as they are beautiful, nevertheless I like to keep an open mind about the people that I meet, hoping that one day it’ll flourish into something beautiful because ‘a true friend is the greatest of all blessings.’
However, this is not always the case, which honestly I’ve had a really hard time accepting. What inspired me to write this letter were my personal experiences from my two years at college, I had a fair few friends, perhaps even over 10! I felt blessed to be in the company of great people with amazing minds but that changed when I left. Over the summer I found that I made very few close friends at college and I had kept in touch with even fewer.
Was I expecting to make friends for life with everyone? Not really. Yet I still couldn’t get it out of my head that I was walking out of everyone’s lives and it was my fault for not keeping in contact.
I had yet to understand there is a huge difference between acquaintances and close friends, sometimes I spoke to people because I saw them everyday or because we took the same classes. And that’s okay, because not everyone you meet will have that same connection with you.
For a while this put me off making friends at university, what’s the point of making friends if people just leave? And how do you react when they do? Do you try and keep in contact or just leave them be because it’s better than trying to force a relationship?? After pondering and conversations with a close friends I finally understood something important…
I’m a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, therefore people come into your life for two main reasons; they’re a blessing or a lesson. I stopped being so afraid of losing people after that, maybe life had something better in store for me. Just maybe. Sometimes the reasons behind breakups aren’t important, it’s what you take out of that and ultimately, what you’ve learnt.
Friendships truly are a beautiful thing, so make the most of them…
Love from, Me.